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The second goal I have set for myself is to write at least one email to a friend or family member every week. Otter will be the first person to tell you that I am absolutely horrible at maintaining any kind of contact with friends or family, mostly because I’ve done it to her. That won’t happen again with her, but I still need to do a better job of staying in touch with people.

In general, the excuse that I use for poor communication is the fact I’ll be moving on soon anyways. I picked up that habit early, moving every three or four years and having to make new friends all over again. These weren’t little moves either, this was across the state/country or out of the country so I couldn’t really call or make regular visits. You get lazy after a while, I mean, you’ll never see those people again will you? I was good to decent when I moved back to the States to go to school, to the point of spending far too much of my limited dollars on the AT&T phone card that I set up. Over the past few years though, I have definitely gotten worse.

This is one of those ironic moments, where something that I’ve been intimately involved with for last decade has not improved me the same way it improved a lot of people. The Internet is one of the greatest inventions ever, permitting people from all corners of the globe to interact on a realtime basis. Meanwhile, I can’t be bothered to respond to emails from family or friends. Not cool, and I know at least one person who isn’t willing to accept “eh, that’s the way I am.”

Why would it be important now, after so many years of being piss-poor at it? This primary reason for me is that my sloppy communication habits put my relationship with Otter at real risk. I cannot and will not allow that to happen again. So, everyone else that I know gets to be a guinea pig for lame attempts at staying in touch. But, at the same time, there was a reason that I hung out with those people when I knew them (I forced to in the family case, but it works out in the end ). They were cool, they were funny, they were interesting, and they were worth my time. That really hasn’t changed, and I need to do a much better job of conveying that.

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