So, for Spring Break I spent a week on the road all by myself. It sucked. I hated it. 56 hours alone in my car. Hopefully I learned my lesson though, if it’s not the last time I let some male walk all over me, I deserve whatever misery I end up going though.
NEway, I had a lot of time to think, and sing of course… my poor throat. 
I got some new tunes and had a bit of fun matching some songs to ppl. 
And while my vocal cords rested every once in a while I would think about my pathetic desperation for a man and whatnot.
I don’t think I will re-iterate War Maiden’s thoughts on that at the moment. Instead I decided to make a list of neat reasons why it is awesome to be single. 
The first think I thought of was: You can completely disappear for a good 2 days and no one notices. It’s awesome! It’s like in the movies when everyone around the main character freezes and they go off and do something fun then go right back to their spot as though nothing happened, everything is the same except for the secret smile on their face… sigh
Secondly, you don’t have to plan anything around anyone else’s schedule. Well, ok, I plan most things around raiding, but I can always skip, I’m just a member. This was Onty’s first thought when I asked him what perks we have being single.
Dude, you get to dress up for… yourself. Whenever you darn well feel like it, or don’t!
It is awesome not to be a ‘drain’ on someone else’s resources. You have no idea how un-cool it is to hear about how much they spent on you b/c thy felt they ‘had’ to… It’s a billion times more appreciated and attractive when they spend money on you b/c they want to. And for crying out loud, they don’t have to SPEND money on me! I much prefer TIME, and back rubs. Mmmmm back rubs…
Did you know that when you are single more ppl are allowed to spoil you.
Zomgosh… no bf = no WoW aggro!! Woot-ness.
You can sleep with whomever you like, whenever you like!
You can’t imagine how nice it is, not to feel like you ‘have’ to put up your daily schedule so everyone knows where you are every minute of the day. These days I sometimes don’t even get on aim(link)! Hehehe, when I do Onty likes to poke me to make sure I am not dead. How I do adore him.
You are really only responsible for yourself & you only answer to God and yourself. If you F it up, it’s your fault, you can’t blame anyone else.
You get to meet all the WoW ppl you want. to date: Jhaelyn, Mudir, Trinny & Xano!, Rannon, Rhyllos, and Cruz. Planing: the rest of Silence at Blizzcon!
When the boys get irrationally jealous, you don’t’ feel guilty b/c they have no right to. I talked it over with Lil’Bro, and he agrees if I give fair warning and they don’t’ go away, I’m good to go.
Another thing I thought of was: No one is going to go nuts on you when you sleep in Rest Areas in the middle of the night. I was talking to my roomie the other night as we were coming back from the airport. Her thought on it was: “Wow that is showing a lot of independence.� That made me feel pretty good.
You can flirt with whomever you like (as long as they are single, don’t be a jerk!). Hell yes! Although, one would think that if I flirt with everyone exactly the same, in front of everyone else, no one would get ideas? LilBro says it’s coo. I did think of the slogan: “Naye says I should flirt more, but if you flirt back Seton will break your kneecaps�
You don’t get sad or annoyed that your bf doesn’t go to church with you or share your relationship with Christ. That’s a biggie, drove me bonkers when Marcos couldn’t share the most important part of my life. Meh, even Speedy was a trial on this one… Yes, Non-denominational is a denomination and they have their own traditions and ways that they do things! shock and horror C’mon, think about it.
You don’t get hit. Well, ok, maybe you do, but when you aren’t dating the guys you feel much better about beating the crap out of him right back.
You don’t (usually) get in really stupid fights. Like one I overheard the other day about how the gf had other guys phone numbers in her phone… What? Did you think there was no one before you stupid? You think she’s going to drop all her friends so you won’t be an insecure baby? Hex no. You don’t want to see guys names on my phone? Don’t look at it.
NO POWER STUGGLE! I don’t have to try to put the pants on my bf! Or sit there dissatisfied with his apparent lack of manhood. It’s so frustrating not being able to be the woman in a relationship. Guys need backbones, and pants, and thy need them before I look in their direction.
Oh yeah, and random play. Nuff said.
All said and done, I’m not sure I feel desperate, despite what ppl may think. Considering the 23 open marriage proposals, 2 date me requests, and the 1 run away with me (to Italy in September! My b-day!)… I think I am a chooser, not a beggar at this point.
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Stupid avedral.